“I don't like going to my in -laws, Because there is a very tense atmosphere. When I visited them as their son's girlfriend, it seemed, that everything is fine. But when I entered the family for good, they stopped playing and only then it turned out, that they constantly "grow" at each other. All the time, regardless of, They speak to each other with raised voices. It tires me terribly. The husband thinks, that I am exaggerating and claims, that now everyone is nervous, because life is simply difficult. He also gets angry and causes arguments for any reason. Says, that he loves me, But he shouted at me all the time! I feel, that I move away from him.”
The husband in the family home learned, that if he does not express his request in a raised voice, will not be heard. So he shifts from the habit. Of course, This does not justify his behavior, and only explains, where it came from. Probably your husband and in -laws treat anger as something normal, So they expect such behavior from all family members. For you, however, anger is a problem, not an ordinary way of communicating. The shouting of her husband does not indicate this, that you don't love. It's worth talking about it, Although I'm afraid, that it would be hard to get used to my husband. However, I advise you to say openly, that the current situation is unacceptable to you.